Prita

“So you went there only the 2 of you. And … with a girl? Really? What is so fun about that?”

“What was so fun about going to Bali with a woman and … with 1 woman only? So only the 2 of you driving all around Bali with a map and you said that it was the first time? What kind of Bali trip was that?”

So what?

I just don’t get when suddenly my friend out of nowhere found it odd about vacationing with a friend (which means only 2 persons in that trip) whom is a woman to Bali.

My first answer is … it’s not where you go to, it’s the person you go with. You can go to Maldives or … Europe … or maybe the most romantic place in the world but if you go there with someone who’s not cool, smart, and fun to be with … your vacation is screwed.

I went vacationing with a cool woman who knows what to do and where we should go to in Bali. For the last 2,5 years of my friendship with Miss Mia, she had never disappointed me when it comes about traveling. And this is not my first time.

She is well prepared. She is meticulous. She is very positive. She calculates everything at the exact price. She knows what to buy. She knows where to go.

And though she doesn’t drink, do drug and night clubs, she is still fun to be with. She doesn’t need boozes and amphetamines.

I don’t know, I may sound old and boring. But I really do think that I don’t need to get drunk to have fun. Or dancing on the bar table. Or … scoring by hooking up with the handsome guy whom happened to stay in the same hotel with us. Not at all.

I don’t judge people who did all of the above, but I do make a fuss when my friend judged me … that I’ve wasted my time because I don’t drunk, go to the hottest clubs, and went home with no list of guys’ phone number or even … the fact that I went there with a woman. And just the 2 of us.

“Oohhh I should buy lots of JD … I’m going to Bali”

“I should get some dopes and drugs … I’m vacationing, for Godsakes! What’s the use of going there without getting high?”

“I should get a partner and a box of condoms … It’s Bali, baby! Island of the sex Gods”

:).(Can you guess which one from the lines above that was said by a man? )

I guess some people have their own idealist mind about how a vacation should’ve spent. J. But don’t say that I’ve wasted my time. You weren’t there.

Sometimes vacation is not about the wacky crazy high and drunk or how many orgasms you got from the sex party. Some people vacationing for the view, the food, the beach, and the soothing feeling of getting away from the routines.

And believe me … compared to the orgasms the woman had next to my room at my hotel, my vacation is still awesome.

In my opinion, Miss Mia is doing what she’s good at. Which is travelling. And when you hooked up with someone who’s doing what she or he is good at … you won’t get bored. Even without the booze, hot guys, clubs, and drugs. She is a kind of woman whom plans the work and then work the plan.

The only thing I regret was I forgot to bring my bikini when we were at Karma Kandara beach! That’s all.

The rest was wonderful. And priceless.

Miss Mia is a very good traveling partner. With no doubt, I’m going to say yes if she asked me again. Of course, if I have the budget. *wink*

I work this Saturday. And i’m so glad I did.

Today, my 2 beautiful bosses will interview a candidate for Language Training Program Manager post. And I’m looking forward for today’s candidate. She came from Australia. She’s my age. And with the fact that she’s the only woman candidate in the list for that post excites me.

When she came this morning … argh, I was mesmerized. She’s beautifullllllllll. WIth her warm smile, red hair, she greeted me with a friendly ‘good morning’. My smile automatically blossoming out of my face.

Suddenly, i feel like saying … I WANT HER to be the new language training manager. ;). Forget the fact that she is suck in Bahasa Indonesia. Forget that she’s a woman. There’s something about her that gave me a good vibe. I wonder, if there’s an opening to be her assistant? I would love to apply.

Finally, a 30-something beautiful gal to be a manager in my office.

Hmmm, I really hope she nailed the job. Oh Vickers, Oh Harrison … sorry. But my vote goes to Ms Samuels. *LOL*

PS: We’re going to interview Thomas on Monday. I hope he won’t be nervous during the interview. But still, my vote goes to Ms Samuels. Besides, something tells me that being an Examiner is his last resort for career maneouvre in IELTS. *laughing like the devil, huahahahahhahahah*

I’m tired of how people commented on Susan Boyle’s look. For me, there’s nothing wrong about her look. I think she’s witty, enormously talented, funny, and she did great in that talent show.

Though I’m not really a fan of her voice, still I feel a little bit distracted when I heard my friend said that she is nothing because there are so many people out there are better than her and people just weren’t expected to hear her beautiful voice due to her looks.

How many women of her age can sing like that?

Not a lot of people can do that. Can you?

:).

Why do they like such a gal?

(About how foreigners like Indonesian women who look like my maids)

A: Why do you think Jo likes that kind of girl? You’ve seen his girl friend, right?

B : Hey don’t judge. Maybe that girl is smart. You don’t know her that well, beautiful.

I shut my mouth. When it comes about how I made comments to other woman I often shut my mouth when he finds it intimidating and contains a sharp-tongue word.

When you choose your woman there’s a package right? Beautiful but dumb. Ugly but smart. But would you choose ugly and dumb all in one? Okay, it’s about preferences. It’s about feeling. But please, before you show-off your ugly & dumb girlfriends … Guys, you should do a make-over and a training first for her so then she would make a good-non-embarrassment appearance in front of … the people. Which can be your employer, your friends, or worst your exes? *lol*. And believe me, I did this to one of my friend’s girlfriend. And there’s nothing wrong with that. The point is she or he has to realize that she or he needed a make-over. Whatever the reason is, it is not comfortable when you were stuck in a gala dinner or a wedding reception and you were under-dressed or the opposite. You should be … suitable. And when you’re suitable that’s classy and elegant. That’s timeless.

Jo, whom is a friend of Re is a well-educated expat lived in Indonesia for the past 2 years and dated this woman whom looked so much like …my maid. While Jo is amazingly handsome. Tall, blonde, blue eyes, and earn a lot. :).And see him walking with a woman who looks like my maid was not really comfortable. I was so close to leave Re and shaking Jo’s elbows and shouting, “WAKE UP Prince Jo … WAKE UP!!!!”

And it’s not just Jo. There were several friends of Jo whom also dated Jo’s girlfriend’s friends. There were 3 of them. I had no idea where Re found this group of friends. I don’t judge … Well, maybe a little. It’s not comfortable when you were stuck in this so-called wrong group of friends.

I felt I was overdressed with my jeans, my sleeveless shirt and my flat sandals. O yeah not forget my post man leather bag. I’m not a high-heel sandal gals when I have to go out casually only for coffee or shopping for groceries with my partner. And those ladies … they look like they’re ready for a night out in a Mardi gras parade.

Gees, and I thought we’re having a brunch date. I can’t stand to not make a comment.

So after this brunch date that made my head a little bit dizzy for not accepting how Jo could actually fall for this woman, I discussed it again with him. And along the time it intrigues me to get to know his preferences about women. So I tell him about the packages.

Beautiful but dumb or ugly but smart. Okay, me first. If I were a guy I would choose brain over looks. Why?

If you were smart, why would you want to look not attractive?

But also there is a type of stubborn smart. Where she believed that beauty is from the inside and that cosmetics are toxic. Well, I don’t judge …

But if she were determined to keep her “not so attractive” appearance instead of change some of it so then she would look attractive, no matter how smart she is, she will still look ugly. And stubborn.

And I don’t want to be caught dead with that woman in bed. I just knew it from the start, if I were a guy, I would be a chauvinist prick. Just because I want a smart gal to be my partner, I still want a woman with a nice rack and a beautiful hair. Not forget nice hands and nails. Smart but overweight? No. Smart but does not know how to look good with her clothes? Big no. Smart but dressed like some fashion victim? Go to hell. I’m starting to sound like gays, aren’t I?

So people, balance it please. Enhance your look, enrich your brain.

When I gave him these options, do you want to know which of those 2 he pick? He chose beautiful but dumb. What do you know? He’s a pure chauvinist prick.

And when I asked him why, he answered when you’re beautiful even though you were wearing a training pants and an over-sized shirt, you would still look beautiful. Sometimes no one cares the inside when the packaging was so intriguing. And he said, smart is about learning … it is fixable. Adjustable.

WTF? :P.

What else is new?

And I asked him, “I’m smart and ugly, right? Because I do not want to be known as beautiful but dumb”

He said, “Don’t make me choose. I’m lucky. Stop judging those poor gals who do not look like you. Not even close. My friend fell in love with her gardener and got eloped. Maybe that’s love. Who knows? You and I, we are just not that lucky when it comes about this love bullshit”

I was jaw-dropping. But then he said …

“So, what do you want for dinner? Fillet mignon or my famous vegetarian spaghetti?”

“Sayang, kamu dimana?”

“Mprit … kok belum sms aku hari ini. Somse deh”

“Kata temen aku  … kamu mature. Huuu bialin”

“Mprit, hari ini kaki aku kecemplung di es yang belum keras .. hehehe”

“Stockholm ujan. Becek dimana - mana. Sebel”

“Aku lagi di taman tidur2an. Maaf tadi nggak denger sms kamu”

“Mprit, kata Nanda ukuran baju kamu harusnya XS. Tapi kalo disini kecil banget tuh. Kayaknya cuman boneka yg bisa pake”

“Mpritnya udah bombok ya?”

“Love u”

“Mprit … kamu kenapa jauh banget sih?”

“Kok tadi aku nggak ditium?”

“Mprit … nggak bisa ke lain hati .. :(”

“I live for your smile and die for your kiss. Luv ya. So much”

One day, dia naek sepeda dari rumahnya ke kantor pos pas salju lagi turun di Stockholm. Buat ambil paket dari gue. Dan gue goblok2in tu orang. Sumpeh … nggak ada tuh gue bilang, “ooooooohhhh kamu kok manis banget sih langsung ambil”. Gue cuman bilang, “Nduttttt begooooo … besok pagi aja kenapa ngambilnya???”

Blinked.

And tears running down my face. Slowly. Warm.

First time in this month, remembering you. And this one hurts.

I don’t want anyone else

I don’t even want him

I want you

It was always you

You that I adore

The air that I breathe

Though with your pessimistic view of the world and how gloomy you think it is to live in this too old earth, I will still love you.

I want to be with you

Though you kept your silence …, I will still be there.

I want to be with you

I’ve been dead for so long

I can’t feel a thing

I’m scared. I just want to disappear.

Me : Sean, do I sound arrogant when I talked in English lang?

Sean : No. You sound incredibly good talking in English. To be honest, for an Asian, your English is good. Why?

M : My best friend’s bf told her that me and her are arrogant for talking in English more than Bahasa. What do you think that’s odd when I talked in English?

S : Is that so important?

M : Yeah. So?

S : well, maybe your accent.

M : My accent sucks, isn’t it?

S : I have always thought you were not an Indonesian when I called you the first time at the office 7 years ago. Means, your accent is so good. Maybe … you shouldn’t talk much in English around your Indonesian friends. You sound so good, they hate you for that. But, the consequences are … well, you don’t use it you lose it. Means you might going to lose your english lang skills bit by bit if you didnt talk much in english.

M : Is there anyway I can still talk in English and at the same time giving an impression to people that I’m not arrogant but incredibly funny and friendly?

S : Funny and friendly for who? Ghosts? Oh come on princess, talk in english as much as you like, at least you just sound arrogant … not arrogant per se.

M : I’m not funny for you?

S : You know what your problem is? You should call Ja … he’s on his way to canberra and will stop by in Jakarta. For a week. Give him a call. He’ll landed at CGK on Sunday at 7 pm.

M : What the hell is he doing here? For a week? That’s not stopping by. WHy he he get an extra 1 week for 3 months TDY?

S : His phone number is … 0812 678 ……

So, what is your list?

I don’t have many. But I try. Here goes :

1. I’m a big believer of “meant to be”.

2. I believe everything happens for a reason.

3. I believe people should developing or they can’t survive.

4. I like to give something than asking.

5. I’m good at writing what I feel than talking about it.

6. I fell in love with English language since I was in kindergarten.

7. I’m not a cynic. I’m a realist.

8. I got abused when I was 5, in college, and with my first boy friend.

9. Never taste alcohol, never intend to get tattoos, never try smoking pot, never try any amphetamine or any kind of drugs.

10. I ran away from home at the first time when I was 13. Regard the abusive and domestic violence in my house.

11. I had my first kiss with my friend, a boy. I was 17. And it felt … watery. My lips were all just wet :P.

12. I got my second kiss with someone whom is my friend at my Facebook account now. ;). I was 17 and he was  21. O yeah, college guy is awesome!

13. I’m scared with people who can do taekwondo, kendo, karate, or any martial arts. Something that connected with abusive, but if i got a kid, I’ll make sure he or she can do one of them.

14. My first blind date (i know him from my friend) went awesome. My first blind date from an on-line chatting was a disaster. Knowing strangers on-line is just not my thing.

15. I didn’t know what IELTS stands for before working at my current office. :P.

16. I want to be a TEACHER! Because when I was a kid, teachers seem to know everything!!!!!

17. I have the willing to do the unimaginable.

18. I love long-distance relationships. ;). It’s exciting to count your watch backward or forward, thinking what he’s doing at that time.

19. I’m a cuddling person. Can do that all day.

20. When I was in elementary, I can stare for hours at the World Map, imagining what it would be like to go around the world. I love traveling.

21. I’m an introvert, but the reason is definitely not because I’m un-attractive.

22. I used jokes as my defence-mechanism.

23. I’m a beach lover!!!! I want to live at any country that has beaches view whenever I open my curtain!

24. I don’t like styrofoam glasses or plates. They are not eco-friendly.

25. I like those tingles in places it shouldn’t be, when I’m in love.

“Where did you learn your English?”

I did go through a course for General English. For 2 years. From Intermediate ’till Advance level. I remember my essay that got me through the last exam to finish Advance level was titled “Bridging the Generation Gap”. It was written based on personal experience and my analysis on how youngsters tend to have lack of respect with their elders whilst most of senior citizens judge that youngsters nowadays have no strong values for traditions. It was quite a nice essay I suppose. :). I mean compare with craps that I wrote in my blog. Hahaha. When I showed my supervisor at my first workplace she was a little bit … did not believe that I wrote that. She said … the brain did not match the package. But after that she is my perfectionist-friendly-bitch boss. She is my great mentor.

And I didnt say my English is good. I didn’t say that at all. But why I often write in English and always use English to talk whenever I get the chance to challenge my English ability is because … I fell in love with the language. Yeah, I love English language. I remembered I was 3 when I heard my first English language. It was “the hills are alive with the sound of music”. Yeah, It was “the sound of the music” movie. I know … weird isn’t it? Plus I went to catholic preschool and kindergarten … and my teachers and sisters there often challenged my English. There’s this one teacher named Ibu Tris whom always greeted me and chat with me in English. Then I become … addicted. Always try to find the meaning of every English word I heard from TV or someone or found it in the paper.

Of course it costs me something. Most of my Indonesian friends always said … “Prita, we’re not in LA. Stop it. Stop talking in English. And stop the goddamn accent!!!!!”

I am more to American accent than Brit. At first. But now … kinda changed. I mean I’ve been with my British boss for almost 3 years. He succeeded to influence me …  that along the time British accent is quite nice. And don’t forget Australian accent is annoyingly sexy. For some part.